Conversations

So, I had this really stimulating conversation with a friend of mine last night on the phone about a lot of different things. I am definitely a conversationalist and I like to be goofy and discuss serious issues (in my life, I take the approach that any serious issue, as a Christian, should be important for me to bring under the subjection of Jesus Christ!). Now, my friend is very goofy! And, when certain issues arise or he is prodded, he can carry a conversation very well. Yet, he is only this way around certain people. He's not a huge conversationalist (aka: shy), he prefers to let others dominate the conversations and he'll just listen. I laughed when he said this because I certainly have the capability to dominate a conversation but I don't want to. A conversation with yourself, just hearing yourself talk, is the most boring thing to do. I don't learn from myself, I learn from others! I can't know anyone unless they tell me about themselves. As a girl...hahaha...I think we are always striving for some response to what we are asking or saying. When you ask a guy, "how was your day?" you will normally get, "good". If you ask a girl, chances are she will go through every little detail of the day! Now, that may be exaggerating some, but bare with me. My friend Emily said once, "if you're a laid back person, at what point do you begin to care?" Not saying that you don't, but what things are extremely important to you that you would choose to speak up? I actually started playing 40 questions, as my guy friend would like to call it, and most of his responses were, "I don't know." LOL....I don't mind, really. I thought it was funny. I kept saying, "yes you do, just think!" I suppose because I am a woman and I have the gift of "conversation" that I enjoy asking questions and discussing important issues. This does not include gossip. I believe it to be a vile thing and I have no desire to partake in conversations that are solely begun to air out someone's dirty laundry or put them down in order that we may look better. News flash: gossip only makes us look worse. The Lord tells us in His word that if we do such things, our religion is in vain. Anyway, I like to know my friends. I like to know what makes them tick, what makes them happy, what saddens them (some think that crying, especially for a guy, is wrong), what gets their blood boiling, what issues do they feel most passionately about? Tell me why I should share my thoughts with you. I am not going to share my deepest, most innermost thoughts because those are for the Lord and for my husband someday. What I am asking is, do you want to know? It's not one-sided. A friendship is the exchange of feelings and thoughts with someone that you care about, and as a Christian, it is our duty to serve the Lord by serving people. Part of serving people is understanding their needs, their pains, their joys, and how better to be a friend to them. For me that includes understanding that, with my guy friend, silence can be good...and if you want to talk, bug him until he answers...lol...hahahaha. Naw, I'm just kiddin'. As I said last night, there is a time to talk and a time to be quiet, a time to laugh and a time to be serious....ya follow?

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