Attitudes

Upon observing my character, I realize that there are definitely things to improve. I tend to take the defense (especially with my family), I see my mistakes and shortcomings instead of my accomplishments, I can be stubborn, and my most frustrating is that I am not as great of a friend as I want to be. Being a friend to someone doesn't just include those outside my immediate family, instead, it includes them. The way to change your behaviors starts with how you treat your family. This includes how you talk, listen, and think. Being patient and letting someone complete their sentences instead of assuming what they are going to say. They may surprise you! Really hear them out! What kind of tone you use when talking plays a vital role in how people are going to listen to you and perceive you. And instead of thinking about someone's worst characteristics, think about their best...and go from there. Be uplifting, don't tear down.

This is a process, it isn't easy. I struggle with communication within my family. It's been a problem since before I was born. Behaviors are taught by our parents and learned. I don't want my future children to have difficulties communicating with each other or with me and my future husband. I want a home of peace, joy, and love. But, the only way for my attitude to change is to take the Bible and search like crazy for every single verse pertaining to attitudes. Peace, patience, understanding, joy, love, kindness, goodness, mercy...and the list continues. Even looking up verses about attitudes that aren't good. I want to memorize each, speak them daily, and put them at the forefront of my mind. With the word of God on my mind, I know that I will be able to correct my attitudes. It is not easy in any way; I tell you the truth. I struggle with them every day. But, I know that God commands me to honor my parents and part of that includes how I talk to them. So, putting all of that out there...pray for me. Pray that the change that has been long overdue will begin to take place in me as I strive to seek God's help. Love to all of you!